Originally posted 2/18/2015
There was a small article on one of the news feeds which had some tips about traveling light. It talked about leaving those extra ten hair products, and those seven pairs of shoes you will never wear, at home. After all, you are on vacation – travel light!
It got me to thinking about all of the extra baggage many people carry around every day. We stuff our emotional luggage with that hurtful thing one of our girlfriends did to us 5 years ago. Or that failed relationship or marriage and how unfair it was and how terrible that person was to you. We fill up the bags with resentment for someone who got a promotion that you thought should be yours. The workplace becomes something to dread. Add some envy for that beautiful new house your best friend just bought.
We can’t live fully in the present or even move forward with the tons of ‘stuff’ we choose to carry around. We can keep piling it up inside of us and at some point, it becomes toxic and we start to be bitter, jealous, and really unhappy.
But we do have another choice. We can instead use these life lessons, no matter how small, to learn how to move on and create a better you and a better life. I always wonder what the point is of re-hashing over and over all of the bad stuff. No one really wants to hear your sad story all of the time – in fact, I don’t think that even you want to hear your own tale of woe again and again, but you are not sure how to stop yourself. And so that baggage keeps getting heavier to the point that sometimes you get paralyzed in your own sadness and memories. And a few events can turn you into a bitter and unhappy person. That is not the way you are supposed to live your life. Especially at work, where you spend the majority of your life, ask yourself do you want to be so miserable 8 to 10 hours a day? Is that really living? You are meant for so much more happiness. Every day.
What can you do to move forward and feel more free and joyful without all of that heavy baggage you are carrying around?
1. Ask yourself – “How do I want to live my life today?
Instead of making a To Do list, replace it with your ‘To Be’ list. My friend and author, Starla J. King, talks about how having and following a To Be list is so much more rewarding that just checking off those chores every day. Write down how you want to feel and behave today – angry, tired, or sad? Or grateful, curious and giving?
When you look at it this way, the answer is a no-brainer – right?
2. Be bold and let it go.
We get stuck in our routines, those known things that somehow give us comfort because we do them a lot and know what to expect. Do one thing differently today. You have heard me encourage you before to Be Bold. And I have gotten so many comments on how just changing one little thing – like stopping your self from complaining about the boss or the coffee, or being more patient with a co-worker or child that annoys you – can give you a new feeling of freedom and lightness. Let go of those habits that no longer serve you. Add some new ones that will recharge your energy. You will love the feeling.
3. Unpack your bags
Take a little inventory of how much useless, emotional stuff you really have with you every day, and night too. Have a little notebook or use your mobile device to jot down the things that come up each day: what annoys you, sets you off, makes you sad, or angry or keeps you frozen from doing what you want?
Is it that other people have so much more than you and you feel frustrated or left out?
Are others asking too much and you can’t say no and it makes you angry?
Do you do things you don’t want to and then resent it?
You get the picture. As you write this down, every day you will start to see a pattern. These loaded, emotional words that drain you will pop out. And these are the ones you want to unpack.
First be aware of how you are feeling and then choose to react differently – in a more loving and nourishing manner to both yourself and others. Pretty soon your bags will be so much lighter and just filled with the ‘essentials’ you need to move through your life more happily! Your new journey awaits you – starting today!
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Now is the best time so let me help you on your journey to figure out what inspires you, what your unique skills and talents are, what is next. I can support you in finding answers and inspiration in personal career coaching, programs and workshops developed just for you.
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