I had a wonderful phone call with a dear friend a few weeks back. We don’t get to talk very often but when we do, we both are smiling, listening, and connecting in a way that is so real and truly nourishing for us both. We share in a totally honest way – where we are in our respective lives, what are our difficulties and our joys. We then give each other new ideas, challenges, a different focus and a great energy!
I was discussing two challenges that I am faced with right now – somewhat out of my comfort zone to be honest – and we talked about how much energy it sometimes takes to be continuously engaged and focused while dealing with life’s hurdles.
My friend asked me such an insightful question – What gives me energy? Wow- I just stopped and thought about that question. It is so powerful – to be able to stop yourself in the midst of things that are painful or boring, and to step back and say “How can I shift gears and find the good energy in me to move on? What brings me joy in what I am doing?”
It takes only one thing – awareness. Being conscious and totally tuned into what you are doing and how it makes you feel: are you sluggish or engaged, are you fearful or fearless, do you want to hide from or participate in life? Once you know what you are doing and feeling, and not just reacting mindlessly, you can begin to assess what does get you moving and excited.
For me, I just make a list in my journal of what helps me to be excited. For example, when I am thinking about my business, what energizes me is writing, coaching my amazing clients, connecting with other women, doing workshops. I then focus on those activities and being in the moment – simple and yet empowering. And I tell myself how lucky I am that “I get” to do these things!
I encourage you to make these small little changes for having less anxiety and finding more positive energy in your life–
1. Connect with a friend who brings joy to your life. You never know how much richness you can give and receive from each other.
2. Ask yourself the question “What gives you energy?”
3. Be aware of your feelings and follow the honest answers that come from within. Record them, look for patterns, and move into action and joy.
You will find that this little question, “what gives me energy?”, along with your honest answers will get you going, become jazzed about your life, feel lively and so ready to take on the world again. All you have to do is answer that one little question.