On an early beach walk the other morning I let myself stop and gaze across to the horizon.  There were big swells and smaller waves in between.  Standing there I thought about how we can decide to run into the rough waters head on and ride them in (a bit scary for me, delightful for others), or we can wait for the mirror like water to float in so peacefully (honestly, that is my joy but it is boring to many).

We all know about the waves and currents in our lives – how people, challenges and delights come and go. About how there always are the highs and lows in our journey with some calmness in between.  We can decide we need to plunge right into our challenges, our big waves. We may get thrown around a bit but we always come through with a great story and some scrapes but always the wiser.
And there will also be times when we need to hang back, and float around a bit and take in the surroundings and relish in the much-needed calm. When we allow this stillness, our mind and soul are nourished and we can be opened up to new options and choices we would not have thought of before in all the turbulence.

What is so powerful is that we get to choose which wave we want to ride. Everyday.

 

The North Star, Polaris, is a pretty special star because unlike all the other stars in the sky, it is in the same location every night, and never wavers.  It has been guiding people for eons – it always points the same way – true north.

It reminds me of our own North Star within. That little voice – you know it – that feeling, that instinct which guides us. If we listen to it!  How many times do you have a feeling and then you ignore it and later say – if only I had listened to my gut!

It is easy to get off track – we want to please others, we want to take a short cut, we are just to distracted and need to make a decision quickly and jump right in. And we may end up regretting what we did, become disappointed or waste time and energy

When this happens just take a moment to breathe, listen and think through the important decisions. Sometimes it’s ok to just jump right in but when it really matters, a little silence will help you to hear what your true self is saying.  That is the time to be guided by your own North Star.

A few years ago I had to meet a client and the only space required that I parallel park. At some point in my life I must have forgotten how – one of those things that happens over time that you don’t know about and then one day, it suddenly becomes impossible to do.

I’ve been parallel parking all of my driving life, but one morning I was meeting a coaching client and had to find a spot on a busy street. There were two spaces and both looked plenty big enough to fit in. I tried the first one; I lined up and then hit the curb.  After four attempts, I gave up and moved up the block to the other larger spot. Piece of cake! I lined up again, swung in, hit the curb again and again, and again. Did the curb get bigger? Was there something in the road? I was normally good at this, but not today. I noticed that there was an older man on a bicycle waiting for me to pull in, sitting on his bike looking somewhat amused. I just looked at him and started laughing at myself. Then he started laughing—with a big, wide, toothy grin and smiling eyes—the kind of moment when you just stop and share how funny life can be.

You never know how your little moments and challenges can make someone else happy, even if just for a minute.

What could have been an exercise in frustration or embarrassment instead turned into such a happy and perfect moment.

So, I asked myself, why did I so easily slip into joy instead of impatience or frustration? Lately, I had been making more of a conscious effort to do these three things:

1. Take in things as they come—be accepting, not angry or impatient.
2. Be aware of what is going on and find the goodness in it.
3. Stop being so hard on myself (and others).

I think this was a moment when conscious awareness turned into unconscious response. I know that if we practice being more joyful, and less uptight and intense, good feelings just start to happen naturally. Our bond with each other is in our words and behaviors. They are totally contagious, so let’s make them be the very best we have. Laugh each day—it’s a very good way to “pass it forward.”      Excerpt from “How to Soar with a Broken Wing – Finding Tiny Moments of Joy Everyday.”

The summer solstice is such a joy – the time when we receive the most sunlight and have the longest day (yay – you know I love my summer time!).  In thinking about the light shining on us more, it really represents a time to step back, breathe, and allow the nourishing Sun to surround us.

It is also a time to allow ourselves to relax more, to look at the sky and take in the gifts of light and nature. There are beautiful moments right in front of us – if we accept them. The Light is there to nurture us.  In stepping back a bit and taking care of ourselves, we can also gently nurture others. Self-love first so we then can have that wonderful energy to give without depleting ourselves.

Take this time to create wonderful happy memories in spite of what is going on in the world around us. Take a moment to create even just one little thing today that will make you, and those you love, happy. Smile, sing, flourish, blossom, and just Be.  Nature is doing the same – follow her example!