Originally posted 5/20/2014
We all have a lot of questions every day. They can be words like “Why me?” “How can they do that to me?” “Why is my boss/partner/girlfriend such a jerk?” I like to call questions like these the Drama Questions – ones that really have no useful or nourishing answers, but only point fingers and play into being a victim. If you step back and listen to your questions, I bet you will even laugh a little when you get out of your bad feelings and hear how silly they are. Remember when you were little and kept asking the question ‘Why?’ Eventually, your parents would just get exasperated and say “BECAUSE I SAID SO!” See – there really are no satisfying answers to the question WHY.
Today, if this is your usual pattern, try something different. Ask the BEST questions you can – of yourself and others.
The better the questions, the better the answers and options you have.
Consider asking questions like these:
“How can I do this better?
How can I react differently?
What can I do to stop allowing others to have control over me and push my
What kind of support do I need?
If I had no rules, what else could I do?
What is the best advice I can give myself?
What is the one thing I can change that will make a big difference?
How can I give myself permission to do something new or different?
What one step can I take to get out of my comfort zone?
What is holding me back and how can I change it?
Make a list right now of the best questions you can think of – those that will bring you more joy and empowerment. Then take notice of your questions today. When you hear yourself asking the drama questions, stop and replace them with the types of questions which give you the best results and amazing options you may never have thought of. Your choice. All it takes is a little shift in your thinking. You will be pleasantly surprised at the answers.
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